Women Loving Women (VCA) Review

I hope you don’t mind, but I thought I would use the review of this self-help video to also share with you some of my own how-to-become-bisexual advice. But first, a little info on the movie.

I thought this film was great! The producers took some excellent girl/girl scenes from the ‘90’s and overlayed them with some clinical advice from Dr. Patti Britton. Dr. Patti sounds a little scripted, but the exciting play-by-play offered by porn stars Veronica Hart and Julie Ashton was the bomb! (Wonderful!) They were both warm, honest, inviting and spontaneous. Imagine two women Rose Parade announcers talking about love making – and how to do it better – and you’ll get the picture!

This movie has eight scenes, and all of them are gorgeously lit with attractive actresses. The big name stars who appear include Nikki Dial, Porsche Lynn, Deidre Holland, Victoria Paris, Jeanna Fine, Ashlyn Gere and Dyanna Lauren. The kissing and pussy eating throughout this video is superb. And there are numerous episodes of face-sitting and sixty-nines to keep the action lively.

The advice that Veronica and Julie provide includes the following: places to kiss other than just lips and breasts, such as down-the-neck and behind-the-knees; how to go slow instead of diving right in; the pro’s and con’s of sixty-nines; how to massage a nipple using the flat of the hand instead of just pinching; encouraging your woman to masturbate in front of you; the advantages of spontaneous and rough sex, and sex in public places; the importance of looking into your woman’s eyes as you eat her; how it feels to have different lengths of pubic hair from long to clean-shaven; how it feels to be savagely taken; how to find a woman’s G-spot; and finally – and most importantly – different ways to lick a woman’s clit to bring her gloriously to conclusion.

Now, when it comes to becoming bisexual, I don’t claim to be an expert. I just know what works for me, and I was hoping my experiences could help others. I should also mention that this advice is geared towards women who love men – but who’d also like to get physical with someone of their same sex. I’ve always found that my relationships with women are based more upon a deep friendship rather than romance, so if you’re looking for something more focused (i.e. homosexual), these suggestions might be too tame for you.

Ladies, as you probably already know, the hardest step in becoming bisexual is finding – and qualifying – a girl with whom you’d like to have sex without ruining a perfectly good friendship in the process. The most effective method I’ve used to determine if a girl might be interested, believe it or not, is to work our conversation around to talking about her boyfriend’s sexual preferences, meaning does he like girl/girl? Most guys do, and most of their girlfriends have usually watched a few women-only scenes with them. Once that’s established, the only challenge then is getting her to admit that she enjoyed watching it too. I’ll normally talk about how my own boyfriend loves to watch two girls getting passionate together without making any value judgement. If she’s not disgusted by this, I’ll typically then express my own liking of it – which doesn’t necessarily mean I want to do it, but it does say I find it sexy. I’ll usually say something like, “I think two women making love together is very beautiful.” And if she responds positively, I’ll then add a comment like, “I think watching sex between two women is even more exciting than seeing a girl and a guy doing it,” which is usually a sentiment most women will readily agree with.

One of my next statements will then be, “My boyfriend wants to have a threesome – but I could never do that!” which will normally elicit a sigh of relief from the girl and absolute agreement. I’ve found that many women would love to have a bisexual relationship – but they won’t do it if it means risking losing their man to another girl.

I’ll usually then add, “I think if I were to have a bisexual relationship with a girl, I’d want it to be with just her, very private.” This is also very important, since the greatest fear a woman has is that any relationship she has with another girl becomes known. There is a still a strong stigma against being labeled a “lezzie,” so maintaining privacy is key.

At this point, I’ll normally let the conversation drift, or I might even drop the topic entirely for weeks. I’ll then watch for signs that the girl is interested. If she is, she’ll typically begin looking carefully at my lips (really!), or she’ll comment on the attractiveness of my figure, or how pretty a particular dress looks on me. When she’s really close she’ll start talking about her own physical shortcoming (which girls do before they want to have sex with a guy, just so that he won’t be disappointed). Another thing women will often times do, and I don’t want to gross anyone out, but she’ll begin to mention when she’s on her period – or, more importantly, when she’s off – which is a way of signaling to you when she’s ready.

The next step normally depends upon whether the girl wants to be the initiator, or if she wants you to be! If it’s the latter, here are some tricks I use. If we’re together at night, I’ll try to get her to slow dance with me. (Yes, I know it’s corny, but it works.) Signs to look for (or to give) would be if she wants to dance a second song; or if she wraps her arms around your neck or rests her head on your shoulder (which girls will do when they want their guys to kiss them). I’ll normally start by kissing her neck, which is safe, and then work my way down her jawline to her lips. These first kisses are some of the most delicious and dreamy that I’ve ever shared with anyone. Maybe it’s the forbidden nature which makes them so exciting. But I think a lot of the appeal is because women are just so soft and lovely. (Guys are so lucky!) Submissive girls will normally want to kiss up to you, as though you were a man. I’m a little taller than most of my partners, so that makes it easier. Ladies, I can tell you first hand that there’s nothing more luscious than kissing another girl’s lips – or sticking your tongue into her mouth – for the very first time. Yum!

If I’m with a girl in the afternoon or early evening, I’ll normally try to sit with her on the sofa. Again, submissive girls will signal you by lying with their head back or tilted against the sofa – as though inviting you to kiss them. I’ll normally take her hands in mine (which is a trick that a past boyfriend told me he uses on doorsteps to kiss a girl good-night). If her eyes are semi-closed, I’ll typically just bring my face towards her’s. But if she’s keyed up, I’ll usually ask if she would mind if I kissed her, which always works, believe it or not. (The direct approach is sometimes best.) Again, these are techniques I use on girls who I’m sure want to be kissed.

For girls who are playful, or who aren’t into being seductive, I’ll normally use the ol’ “Did you ever kiss with your girlfriends when you were younger?” routine. Even if she hadn’t, this question makes the kisses safe – non-sexual – in case she wants to back out. I’ll normally make the first kiss dry (lips only and no tongue), but progress from there if she wants more. Feeling another girl melt in your arms is very exciting. It’s like discovering passion all over again. I’m sure you won’t be surprised if I tell you that these first kisses are some of my most fun and memorable. Every portion of my body is tingling. That initial touch of another woman’s lips is explosive, like dynamite!

On the flip side, if a girl wants to be the initiator (or more in control), nine-times-out-of-ten she’ll ask the same question, “Aaryanna, have you ever been with another woman?” Honest! She’ll normally say this – while looking intently into my eyes. I’ll normally return her gaze just as seriously – answer, “yes,” – and then either bring my face slowly towards her’s, or pull her gently towards me.

After the girl and I start kissing (in all cases), everything is typically downhill (easy) after that. Fortunately – and unfortunately – most women take a lot longer to get into the mood for sex than would a man. Kissing and caressing all over each other’s bodies is usually the best warm-up. I’ll normally then take the initiative to finger or lick my partner’s pussy (since I’m typically the more experienced partner).

Rather than spend a lot of time with the mechanics of eating pussy (which you’ll just have to discover for yourself), here is another technique which I’ve found greatly increases the other woman’s enjoyment – and solidifies her love for bisexual sex. The challenge for most women is to begin seeing another woman’s body as a source of sexual pleasure and excitement. I’ve discovered over time (and for myself) that the best way to accomplish this is by sticking various parts of my body (lips, breasts and pussy) into her mouth – both when she’s sexually aroused and when she’s climaxing!

For example, Veronica and Julie mention that it is sometimes distracting to engage in a sixty-nine since it requires that you give and receive pleasure simultaneously. The best thing about a sixty-nine, though, it that it allows you to bring your partner to conclusion orally (if that works for her) – while your own pussy is in her mouth!

At some point in my relationship with a girl, I’ll want her to climax while she’s eating me. It can happen in a sixty-nine (as I mention above), or by having her masturbate herself to orgasm – while I sit on her face! (I taught my boyfriend to enjoy eating pussy, incidentally, by blowing him in a sixty-nine while he licked me, and by sitting on his face while her jerked himself off!)

(Even earlier in our relationship, he likewise taught me to enjoy felatio by having me suck on his dick while I fingered myself to conclusion. He now wants me to do the same thing – while he ejaculates into the back of my throat – but that’s where I draw the line! Too bad, Bucko!)

With a guy, it’s important to get him to eat your pussy before he comes, otherwise he won’t have any interest. But a girl is still aroused after she climaxes, and asking her to lick you then will still reinforce the deliciousness of the sex you’ve just completed.

Teaching her to enjoy the feeling of my lips or nipple in her mouth is accomplished in a similar manner. I’ll normally kiss her – or ask her to suck on my breast – while I finger her clit. And I’ll do the same with her – while I masturbate – to let her know that her body excites me immensely as well.

Ruminating more broadly, I think that the most effective way to teach a girl to become bisexual would be to actually have a threesome – all girls! One woman would get the new girl sexually aroused by eating her – while the other woman would make love to her being by kissing her, letting the girl suck on her tits, and by sitting on her face. I couldn’t think of a better, more convincing way to become bipolar – than to kiss one girl while another licks my slit! (I think this type of brainwashing would also be a great topic to depict in a video, wouldn’t you say?)

I actually use this threesome model as what I try to accomplish when I make love to a girl one-on-one. I want her to experience both romantic (facial) and sexual (vaginal) love from me simultaneously or as nearly juxtaposed as possible. (Movie scenes where one girl goes back-and-forth frequently between eating and kissing her partner is very sensuous for the same reason.)

As a warning, the worst thing about being a bisexual female – is that I now find myself checking out other women’s bodies continuously! This can sometimes be quite embarrassing, especially if the other woman notices. I now understand why some men are so lecherous. It’s because they can’t stop thinking about all of the tantalizing pleasures a woman’s body has to offer!

To conclude, the movie ‘Women Loving Women’ uses the beautiful visual of girl/girl sex to teach men how to be better lovers. This movie – or another like it – would be so much hotter, though, if it were to use girl-only encounters to teach women how to become bisexual! (That actually makes more sense, doesn’t it?) This video from VCA is sensational – but its sequel would be so much more satisfying! Maybe someday. Peace out!