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• Sex Toys SAFE? 9/27/2004 8:55 PM
  
  So, after reading this, like everyone else, I suddenly became very worried about the potential harm all those lovely jelly toys my SO and I have might be doing. So I set out to do a little research by reading the findings of the original source articles noted by many in their data on phthalates, but seldom quoted directly. It would seem that perhaps everyone is "jumping the gun" in part, as the research would in fact suggest that phthalates in sex toys would be of very low risk. In particular, the pediatrics link, and the studies it cites, show a very low risk of danger from DINP and DEHP, the two main "killer" phthalates. The essential problem in this being conclusive is we have no direct studies on humans, especially...

• laser hair removal. anyone try it? 9/18/2004 2:25 PM
  
  Any guys with any experience or medical know-how here? Once I relocate this year, I've been thinking of getting some laser hair-removal done, but I'm concerned about firing laser beams into my scrotum. I understand any competant doctor will stretch the skin away from the actual scrotum and then laser just into the skin...any men with experience in this area? Physician recommendations?

• A womans moaning. 6/29/2004 8:33 AM
  
  I had a very similar experience with my girlfriend in America. We stayed at a very old, traditional "country inn"-style hotel on the coast(A Bed and Breakfast, for those into such travel). It was absolutely beautiful. The funny thing was, all the rooms were connected by the air vents. So you could easily hear things in other rooms if it was a little loud. The rooms all had a very "romantic" atmosphere, and I think many people there were on honeymoons...My, was there ever a racket at night! Moaning and panting all night...we got pretty turned on by it sometimes ourselves, so I'm sure we gave an audio show to the others. The funny part was, all the guests ate breakfast together in the morning, so my girlfriend and I play...

• Can someone explain the difference? 5/18/2004 8:36 AM
  
  Two perspectives. First, from girls I've talked to, as my current girlfriend and I haven't gone so far as full anal penetration yet (she just has had some fingers in there during sex or oral, and just recently tried a butt plug for the first time)...it's totally dependant on the girl. Some I've talked to say they feel kinda' good, but they can't get of from anal without extra stimulation, but they can with vaginal, so they prefer the "norm". Others, like Kitty-kat, say they have orgasms easily and/or powerful orgasms from anal, but not vaginal. I think this has a lot to do with a.) How you're doing anal and b.) How the woman in question is configured. No kidding on B there. My girlfriends OBGYN told her that she has a slightly...

• Why multiple orgasms? 4/26/2004 4:54 AM
  
  In regards to sperm recognizing the "foreign team" it would likely be the same way antibodies and the like recognize foreign matter. The phospholipid bilayer that composes the walls of our cells has numerous chains of proteins extending from them. The exact type and number of these strings varies from tissue type to tissue type, and person to person. Antibodies use this to recognize the invading cells they are supposed to attack to...their external protein configurations are complimentary configuration ONLY to that which they are supposed to bond. I don't see why sperm cells couldn't have a similar mechanism, whereby they are all designed not to tangle with the protein of cells from the same organism, due to its unique configur...

• Out of interest...... 3/18/2004 7:38 AM
  
  Here's a question for you happily married types...how ever do you deal with the mind-numbingly irritating habits of your spouses? Have been living with my current SO for some years, and have given thought to more serious commitment, but her personal habits seem to drive me nuts fairly often.... So in a relationship, not closed to the idea of marriage, but not particularly into it either. I view marriage as a largely ceremonial and legal affair, especially given how fluid and easily breakable modern ones are. I'd be happy to just "date" for eternity as mutual consorts, as it were.

• the newbie rant's! 2/13/2004 3:02 AM
  
  Welcome to the forums Agent! I have to echo everyone else here. Sounds like you have a good thing going, keep it up! And don't worry, there are others of us Gen-Y'ers on here. I'll only be 24 this year myself.

• Serious question 11/23/2003 3:01 AM
  
  I was also in the "wait for someone special" boat, but not the "wait for marriage" boat. Lost my virginity at...18? 19? I really don't remember. Geez, guess that wasn't much of a big deal for me! In university, with said someone. It's interesting to note that we're still together, one nasty spat notwithstanding. I imagine we'll be married eventually, if we don't kill each other first. So in that way, I guess I'm sort of the oddball monogamous type. The funny thing is, now we're thinking of broadening ye olde' horizons and trying our hands (and everything else) at swinging...

• Pre anal cleansing? 11/19/2003 4:31 AM
  
  First, let me agree with what everyone's said about toys and the like. May I also point out that viewing this as a "sacrifice" is probably not the best attitude to go into it with. If you're going to let/have your girlfriend play around down there, you should try *enjoying* it. Anal play can actually be a very good feeling for most men, provided they're relaxed and well lubed (those two are hugely important). You probably want to work up to sticking something as large as a strap-on up your arse, especially since this will be your first time with anal play and this will be a moving object (i.e., not a buttplug). Might I recommend having your girl do a bit of rimming and fingering down there while giving you a blowjob? The combi...

• Porn lover = Bad lover ?!? 10/8/2003 4:56 AM
  
  Well, this will probably be the final post that gets this thread locked, but I just wanted to clarify something so people don't get a hellaciously wrong idea of me...that I have no intention of hopping on the Ms. Boards and going on a ranting spree. However, I did want to try and raise some interesting issues with the people of said boards. Sir Noel already has the same idea as me for one, and another question I wanted to pose was that isn't it rather hypocritical to claim to stand for gender equality and become offended if a male makes some sort of negative assertion about women as a whole ("Women are so..." etc.) and yet count one as part of a group that often seems outright hostile to men, or at least dismissive (The threads on...

• Porn lover = Bad lover ?!? 10/7/2003 8:38 AM
  
  Seems like Cobalt60, SNP and I will be having some fun on those boards. Like SNP, I just couldn't resist. I enjoy a good mental debate. Hell, I've made full-borne "all violence is evil' pacifists admit that "Some people just *need* to die. And in a vain attempt to bring this thread BACK on track, has anyone had any experience in the opposite direction of that original post, where porn has *enhanced* things or opened people's minds to a new sexual idea? I think that repeated exposure to porn can really change the way you look at sex and sex acts in general. I mean, years ago, the thought of sticking any part of me up a woman's rear end was not appealing. OTOH, these days, I'm more than happy to stuff fingers and the like in my...

• Porn lover = Bad lover ?!? 10/6/2003 8:52 AM
  
  Good points about the logical errors by everyone. As for people's obsession with the women not being visual, I don't know. It's like saying guys get no enjoyment from tactile stuff, both of which are blatantly false. I think it's just that people have these ideas beaten into their heads by society, to the point that many even believe it about themselves. I personally think either of the above is a silly assertion, based a.) on my personal appreciation for tactile, auditory (come on guys, try to imagine how lame sex would be without your partner making all those great noises), and even olfactory things...b.) my long term SO's affection for watching hardcore pornography either alone or with me. This is to say nothing of all the things people...

• Porn lover = Bad lover ?!? 10/4/2003 12:39 AM
  
  Sounds fishy to me. It *is* a generalization after all. Maybe some porn watchers ARE horrible lovers. But then, I think some porn haters are horrible lovers too. As are some of these "sensualists" the writer seems to be lauding. Fact is, there are bad lovers all over the place. Now, if you wanted to discuss the effects of long term porn viewing on what a person views as erotic/sexually acceptable, that might be a conversation I'd actually be inclined to *listen* to. This one, on the other hand, is surely pure trash.

• Dildos 9/30/2003 3:40 AM
  
  Welcome to the forums ford_girl. Don't mind that I'm male, I'm posting on behalf of my SO, who doesn't have an account on here. :P As for dildos, yeah, they do come in a bewildering variety (Btw, I'm assuming you're talking dildos here and not vibes).. Most are pretty cheap, unless you want high-grade materials like Silicon or the "ultra-realistic" types. You can get a cheaper type to see what kind you like for not too much money, certainly under $20 US. Those "ultra-realistic" types, like Cyberskin and its successors, can *easily* run you $30-50 or more. If you're just looking for the ever popular "jelly" materials, those usually run from under $10 to about $20 for a straight dong/dildo. Latex/Rubber dildos...

• Sexy Aromas? (topic moved) 9/16/2003 4:17 AM
  
  So hrmm, I'm not sure if I should be posting this in polls, but I'll take a stab at it here. I'm wondering if any people here find a particular scent extremely attractive/sexy on a member of the preferred gender, be it a cologne, body spray, or even something like the scent of sweat after a long workout or a woman's/man's groin odor. I imagine more ladies will reply to this one than men, but I'm honestly curious, so guys feel free to drop in too. Please share what, if anything, and (if you know) why. I'll admit this thread isn't purely just to entertain chat. Part of my curiosity is seeing if there are any scents and things that large numbers of women like..information gathering. Haven't seen my SO in a long time, and hoping to surpris...

• Swinging and Threesomes 9/11/2003 6:14 AM
  
  LOL...Selena, I think you might have misinterpreted me. Either that, or living in Japan and interacting with the culture over here has reduced my ability to communicate clearly in English (vagueness is prized over here as it runs less risk of offending a listener)...oh, and just Loki is fine if you like, the Saitama is just my area of Japan, tagged on there to distinguish me from the billions of "Loki" wannabe's who've probably never even READ Norse mythology. I'm not having communications issues with my girlfriend in regard to fantasies and the like(later to be my fiance, methinks...hehehe). Quite to the contrary, the idea of 3somes came up directly in conversation when we were just sitting down and chatting about (I forget wha...

• Swinging and Threesomes 9/9/2003 5:23 AM
  
  I have to say, this has been an utterly FASCINATING thread, especially with my SO and I getting more adventurous lately in our relationship. Well, more a matter of me letting her get more adventurous, I'm already open to damn near anything. For me it's just a matter of asking her "Okay, what do *you* secretly want to try?", and then making it happen. Why's this relevant? Well, she's mentioned she wants (maybe..she's playing cautious for now, can't say I blame anyone for wanting to be safe/careful) to try a girl herself, or maybe a F/F/M 3-some. I must say, I find this hilarious, since I had been entertaining the notion of what she thought of getting fucked (wow, no matter how long I read these boards and occasionally post, it's ...

• Women - Pain with Sex 8/26/2003 10:23 AM
  
  Gosh but it's nice to hear this turned out well. Makes me miss my own SO though.

• Anal sex for beginners 8/25/2003 10:32 AM
  
  If you do anal right, it's not supposed to hurt at all. My advice is to keep on doing what you are now-get your girl really horny and worked up, and use LOTS of high-quality lube, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, keep your communication open! Hearing what she's feeling and whether she wants things slower/faster is a MUST! Anal can (and should) be a lot of fun for BOTH people, and as long as you remember that it's all about getting HER off better, and listening to what she says, you'll have no problems. Mind, I've never actually stuck my dick up my girl's rear end, we're working up to that (being separated by 6000 miles is not helping) but even sticking fingers and other things in her butt, I can say the above is golden advice. Listen to your partner ...

• I dont get it 8/11/2003 7:23 AM
  
  chilexi- Hrmm..sounds like you two have a bit of an incongruity in your "inner freak" levels...Hopefully he'll "Come around" (or should that be "cum around"?)to your way of thinking shortly, it'd be a shame to have a problem over something like that. I think you might have luck though. My current SO and I had/have such an incongruity, but I'm pulling her over to the dark side. And hey, if it can work on a nice girl, surely it can work on a nice guy, ne?