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• People you may have dated who do porn. 9/15/2008 1:15:15 PM
  
  This was about 10 years ago but my long-time high school girlfriend went off the deep end and flaked out on me at the beginning of our junior year (we dated since we were freshmen). She got fake ID's and started hanging out with older guys, etc. She started insisting that I start calling her "Candy" instead of her real name, and that was kinda the last straw (I'm a more realistic & serious guy) and I so broke up with her. So to make a long story short about 2 years later I was cruising the internet at college and accidentally discovered that she had started doing porn for an "Amateurs" website while we were still together. Sorry, I don't remember the name of the site. I'm not sure that that's actually the kind of "C...

• Need to find a sotf core movie 8/27/2008 2:22:10 PM
  
  The Ang Lee movie is "Lust, Caution" and while it is mildly explicit it is a long and involved movie. Not great for spicing things up. My wife is the same way about porn and she enjoyed the R-rated version of Pirates which is fairly easily available to rent (we rented through Blockbuster). I also recommend the Showtime series of "Red Shoe Diaries" but sadly I think it is still in limbo for a DVD release, you'll have to go to VHS but I found it to be the most consistently erotic without getting too cheesy.

• Looking for users of Liberator sex furniture 8/12/2008 12:19:52 PM
  
  Hah! Pagoda you are a genius! Devious, but a genius none the less.

• Looking for users of Liberator sex furniture 8/11/2008 2:33:09 PM
  
  We put our new Esse through the paces this weekend as well. What an anniversary let me tell you! We did some acrobatic things that I really can't describe very well, and even just simple "cowgirl" was amazing. My wife is rarely multi-orgasmic (one orgasm usually and sometimes two). When we finally collapsed sweaty and exhausted all she could say was "Fuck Me" over and over. She counted 4 orgasms which is a new record for us. On a side note it is a lot shorter than we pictured it. I don't think that detracts from its functionality, but we had planned to keep it out in the open as a modern chair (since the rest of our furniture is fairly modern-looking) and I really don't think we can do that with it being so short. I gues...

• Looking for users of Liberator sex furniture 8/1/2008 4:20:17 PM
  
  We bought the Wedge/Ramp Combo and absolutely love it. In fact we ordered the Esse today as well. The fabric is spectacular and while the fabric doesn't shift too much it's not like velcro so we do end up having to adjust when things get really worked up. It's worth the money and is the best "adult" purchase I have ever made (wow I sound like a fan boy). We bought the extra-wide wedge/ramp for extra stability but that turned out to be unnecessary and a little unwieldy so we are getting the regular sized Esse. I'm eying the Equus as well once our "bedroom budget" is refilled. Enjoy!

• Avoid strippers like the plague 10/9/2007 2:04:37 PM
  
  Well, my best friend growing up was a gorgeous girl who became a stripper while we were in high-school. So going into college I was friends with her and several other strippers and Yes, there was drama and screaming and fighting and I'm sure she was probably dynamite in the sack. I'm also sure that girls who go into the "sex industry" (I hate that term but I can't think of a better one right now) are very passionate people. HOWEVER, I have also been good friends with a lot of girls who were not strippers and there was drama and screaming anyway. That's just people for you (and not just women by the way!). After all that is said and done, my wife was as straight laced as they can possibly come when we first started dating. Once she...

• Best M-F height combination? 9/28/2007 11:21:16 AM
  
  My wife and I are almost exactly the same height, and we find that the most comfortable standing position seems to be when she is up on her toes (probably makes her about 2 inches taller than me). Some considerations may be how far she plans to bend over, because height affects your angle during penetration and angles are everything! My best suggestion to you is to take something that can be added in increments but still is hard-packed enough to hold shape (I would recommend newspaper because it stacks well and is cheap) and wrap it together securely so it doesn't slide. Make "trial" runs making the stack thicker or thinner until you get the right height. Then "Measure twice/cut once" and presto, you have your preferred ...

• Andrew Blake 9/14/2007 12:20:09 PM
  
  +1 Hidden Obsessions -- One of the very few movies that stuck with me so well I can still picture a lot of it in my head.

• help with new girlfriend 9/14/2007 12:07:03 PM
  
  Nuna, We met just before we went to college. We lived about 2 hours apart so I would go see her on weekends. It was about a year before things started to get "hot & heavy" but another 3 years before we went "all the way" (our wedding night). There is absolutely nothing wrong with taking your time! We've been married 6 years and sex was ok but my wife never really would orgasm. About 2 years ago we started doing research on the net, buying books, and really talking a lot about sex. Now I have learned how to help her orgasm, and she has learned how to relax into an orgasm instead of tensing up and getting uncomfortably over-sensitive (I'm no expert but this may be what is going on in your situation). The "Nina Hartly ...

• help with new girlfriend 9/11/2007 2:35:34 PM
  
  There are a lot of really great resources out there so I'm not going to try to go into them all... A recent topic on this forum entitled "Stop or I'll pee!" might be valuable. If you haven't looked it up yet you can run a search. My wife and I started out in a similar situation since I was experienced and she was a virgin. Communication is always the key and it seems like you have a great start on that. So here is what really worked for us... The people, forums, and resources through www.freddyandeddy.com really helped my wife be unafraid of exploring our sexuality. It is couples friendly and there are quite a few helpful women on their message boards. It's probably our favorite web site. We also rented several of the Nina Hartle...

• Too much self love?? 11/2/2006 10:13:36 AM
  
  I would say that a young guy not having sex all the time is pretty normal. I had a tryst in High School, but never got laid in College. Only after (when I met my wife) did I move from porn to the real thing. The only thing I would be concerned with is when you go home on Friday Night to watch porn alone when your friends are asking you to go out and socialize. Guys that have sex a lot with a different woman every weekend or whatever are at high risk for disease and I don't think its worth the price. Be happy and confident in what you are doing and the life choices you make and that will be a big attraction to the opposite sex.

• vibrator failure 10/27/2006 12:34:37 PM
  
  Whenever my wife has one break we tear it down and scavenge the parts (particularly the on/off/variable switches). Then we have replacement parts available when the next one breaks. However, this works because we tend to repeat buy the same vibrators (but we are very hard on them)!

• which should I buy? Need opinions 10/18/2006 6:00:40 PM
  
  Oooo. Christmas Presents! Thanks for the topic 3SB! Here's another vote for Option A and I'm placing my order too. But when picking size take into account that the hard toys like glass and metal feel a good bit bigger because there is no "give" when they are inserted. I take a smaller glass plug than I do a rubber one. Edited by - darkangel on 10/18/2006 6:03:54 PM

• Porn and Monogamy 8/10/2006 3:23:16 PM
  
  BustdownGal wrote... I put it in quotes because I was adjusting its connotation. The more I thought about it the more I figured this was the case. Thanks for your response. Cobalt, big ditto to everything you have said here (I won't bother to put it all in quotes). And now to take Cobalt's prescription for happiness and go home to get a little drunk and a little crazy with the wife. God I love not having kids!

• Porn and Monogamy 8/7/2006 2:52:03 PM
  
  I think porn is to sexuality as televised sports is to exercise. I think that is a spectacular analogy and very astute (wish I'd thought of it). I personally believe that it is possible to be in a "monogamous" relationship and still fulfill sexual needs with people or objects outside that relationship. Not so sure I buy into this. Why do you put quotes around "monogamous?" The etymology of the word literally means monos "single, alone" + gamos "marriage." Taking the literal version of "One Marriage" the above quote could be accurate, but to me it has a more significant meaning more like "One Partner." Think "Common-Law" marriage. So to me monogamous can leave room for ...

• Positions for sex in shower... 7/25/2006 9:36:32 AM
  
  Every attempt .... has ended in either laughter or injury, or both. +1 to this. Since water is my fetish we (my wife and I) have tried this many times and actual sex has never worked or been satisfying. We are resolved to put a wet room in our house when we finally get enough money to build! We resolved (partially anyway) the issue by using "digital manipulation." As long as the water is not directly on the area receiving attention then hand jobs, blow jobs, and fingering need no extra lubrication. My wife comes faster with my fingers anyway. It is satisfying in its own way and quickly leads to a wet romp in the bedsheets (don't knock it till you try it!).

• Porn and Monogamy 7/13/2006 10:57:24 AM
  
  My wife and I made a plan to have sex when I get home from work as often as possible. This hasn't worked extremely well in all actuality simply because we have a slew of in-laws in our same town and they are always coming over or calling our place to get together for dinner right when I get home. But what we took away from the idea has been priceless. We started treating sex, as Pagoda said, as more of a sport or leisure activity rather than some big event. While our actual sex life probably hasn't increased a whole lot, the simple shift in ideology has made our life and relationship a lot less stressful. And while my wife still has a moral argument with most porn as related here in ADT, the ability to treat sex in a more relaxed manner ...

• a BIG question!! 7/13/2006 10:35:10 AM
  
  The NBA is filled with seven-footers, the NFL with freakish combinations of size and speed, RPG'ers with bad body odor. Everything finds its proper home. I love it! +1 its natural and they are probably in porn for that reason ("to fit in" if you will pardon the pun). Edited by - darkangel on 7/13/2006 10:36:11 AM Edited by - darkangel on 7/13/2006 10:37:04 AM

• Porn and Monogamy 6/26/2006 1:50:21 PM
  
  Wow, while everything that I would add has already been said I just want to pipe in and say this is an excellent thread with excellent comments. Thanks Bob, Pagoda, and all the rest.

• New books on porn.... 1/31/2006 9:34:24 AM
  
  Jackpot! Thanks Loraine.