Zero Tolerance is one of my favorite studios. And watching anal sex on screen is one of my favorite genres. In fact, I think women are often times more attractive fucking in their backdoors – than screwing in their pussies.
I bet we’d all like to fuck anally like porn stars, right? Who better to tell us how than Zero Tolerance.
I’ve watched Nina Hartley’s instructional videos before. I bet we all have. I was anxious to discover how Dr. Ava’s advice would compare.
As it turns out, Nina Hartley’s releases were a lot more sexy. Dr. Ava might fill (ha, ha) the knowledge gaps with a few more steps – to help some of us over the hump (get it?). But in the end (another pun), I was still a little confused.
Dr. Ava has a somewhat attractive couple act out the following steps: bathing and using massage (with lubricant) as foreplay, using anal toys (to become familiar back there), and employing the use of butt plugs and anal beads (for dilation).
For sensuality, she suggests the traditional employment of kissing, caressing, and verbal complements to enhance the mutual experience.
The best piece of new advice she offers – is the use of finger cots – to gain confidence fingering your babe’s backdoor. Finger cots – are little, white finger condoms (how cute) – and they’re available in abundance on Amazon. Hooray. (I had never heard of these before.)
If your guy feels a little squeamish exploring your back door with his finger – wearing a finger cot is an easier, more sanitary way to start out.
I wish I had known about finger cots years ago. When we started out, my guy didn’t mind the idea of sticking his manliness up my shitter. In fact, he couldn’t wait. But the thought of using his fingers to explore my butt hole – absolutely terrified him. Go figure.
Dr. Ava also suggests that your man start out wearing a condom. Again, this might ease your man’s fears of getting infected. Lube is applied generously to the condomed penis – and not injected back there ahead of time (which is what I learned from Nina and what I actually prefer. Isn’t that what porn stars do?).
Here are the instructional items that I thought were missing from Dr. Ava’s video:
I’d like to have a more thorough discussion of lubes (lubricants). If I were a novice, I wouldn’t want to spend a lot of time examining the various options – when I’m shopping at my local Walgreen’s. Would you? Maybe even recommending some well known brands would be helpful. I just want to pick it off the shelf and go. Or buy it ahead of time from Amazon. (Amazon, incidentally, has everything you’ll need for anal sex.)
What about enemas? Dr. Eva doesn’t even mention this. Enemas are widely available at the drug store. And Amazon is filled with all types of enema bulbs for injection. (Or are these only used by gays?) I’ve read in books that giving yourself an enema ahead of time is technically unnecessary, but I still include it as part of my own preparation. I feel cleaner, and I’m sure that my guy appreciates it. (A girl giving herself an enema could be really sexy – up to a point. Don’t go there.)
Lastly, I’d like to have my anus lubed – before my guy comes a knockin’. I think applying lube during sex gets messy. Yuck. I use an anal syringe. But even on Amazon they’re not that abundant. I don’t see porn starts applying lube before sticking it in back there. How is it done for the movies? (And I’d certainly rather use lube – than spit. How dumb.)
I’m not a beginner, but obviously there are still a few things I could learn.
I also think the need to dilate your anal sphincter – ahead of time -- is short-changed in this video. From my own experience, I’ve had to use multiple sizes of butt plugs – and work my way up in size – in order to painlessly accommodate my guy. I think the importance of this step – is vastly underplayed in the movie. (Butt plugs can be sexy. Porn videos are filled with ‘em.)
The movie also offers a variety of anal sex positions. Some are really silly. Why would I want to be a human wheel barrow? The only advanced anal sex positions my beau would care about – would be those that maximize penile penetration. Like, duh.
Lastly, the biggest gripe I have with this video – is that watching another guy – is a huge turnoff. (This is a problem that almost all instructional sex videos have.)
The men in the porn I enjoy – are normally faceless, blocked by the woman’s body – and are there in dick only. Women are the stars. Seeing a man (other than my own) -- so prominently in the scene is just a big downer.
So even though the instructional portion of the video is reasonably well done (in a nice room, romantically lit, and with colorful accoutrements) – the kissing, fucking and caressing – performed by a man who takes up at least half-of-the-screen is just jarring and not at all satisfying.
In Nina’s videos, she also wisely separates – the instructional – from the fucking. And she has real porn actors – do the anal screwing – as though it were a real sex scene (plot and all), just like in the movies.
I don’t want to see a strange couple making love. It’s like being a voyeur in a very bad amateur or MILF movie. I’d rather watch the sex performed – as expertly as I see in regular adult videos -- with the emphasis always on the girl. After all, women are the stars of porn (and rightfully so) – and not men.
This is what I was expecting from Zero Tolerance. That isn’t what I got. I was very disappointed.
This video can be very informative for the truly unitiated. It’s suggestion of using finger cots (condoms) is also quite helpful.
Unfortunately, I’d like to prepare myself ahead of time – so that my anus is already lubed up and ready to go – once my beau and I start making love.
(If I were a young teen going out on a date, for example, I’d rather have my anus already juiced up and poised – rather than having to carry some silly lube around in my purse. Wouldn’t you?)
This instructional video, unfortunately, makes anal fucking – too messy and cumbersome. And watching ugly dudes – who get equal prominence in the scenes – is just a huge turn off.
I want my anal sex – to be as spontaneous – as I see it done in the movies. I don’t mind doing a little preparation before hand. But I’d rather keep my anal lubricant internal – and not external – so it won’t stain all of my bedsheets.
Overall, here’s what I’d rather see.
Show me how Alexis Texas prepares her ass for fucking. Show me the lube that she uses. And show me how she gets it in there.
Furthermore, have Alexis tells me how she got her ass hole big enough to accommodate dicks – and what she used for dilation.
Then have Michael Stefano fuck her ass hole (without a condom) --- for all it’s worth – but make Alexis the star in the scene, just like in a normal porn video.
(And tell me what anal lube would be best – for ass-to-mouth? How nasty.)
Is that too much to ask?